Wondering Who You Are

Wondering Who You Are

A Memoir

Book - 2015 | First US edition
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In the twenty-third year of their marriage, Sonya Lea's husband, Richard, went in for surgery to treat a rare appendix cancer. When he came out, he had no recollection of their life together: how they met, their wedding day, the births of their two children. All of it was gone, along with the rockier parts of their past--her drinking, his anger. Richard could now hardly speak, emote, or create memories from moment to moment. Who he'd been no longer was.Wondering Who You Are braids the story of Sonya and Richard's relationship, those memories that he could no longer conjure, together with his fateful days in the hospital--the internal bleeding, the near-death experience, and eventual traumatic brain injury. It follows the couple through his recovery as they struggle with his treatment, and through a marriage no longer grounded on decades of shared experience. As they build a fresh life together, as Richard develops a new personality, Sonya is forced to question her own assumptions, beliefs, and desires, her place in the marriage and her way of being in the world. With radical candor and honesty, Sonya Lea has written a memoir that is both a powerful look at perseverance in the face of trauma and a surprising exploration into what lies beyond our fragile identities.
Publisher: Portland, Oregon : Tin House Books, ©2015
Edition: First US edition
ISBN: 9781941040072
Branch Call Number: 616.99436 LEA 2015
Characteristics: 348 pages ; 20 cm


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May 26, 2018

This is a wonderful book. The author effectively toggles between descriptions of her husband's medical treatments and therapies and memories of their life together, beginning with when they first met. I admire the author's honesty, fierce courage, and vulnerability.

I deeply empathized with the author because my husband of 47 years died of cancer in 2015, sixteen months after his diagnosis. I, too, have struggled to figure out who I am after being his caregiver and now being without my soul mate. I learned a lot from the author's courage and wisdom.

Jul 14, 2016

Thoughtful and compelling read but repetitive.

mum_mum Aug 13, 2015

Couldn't put it down, sat up half the night wanting to know what happened next- Super descriptive, draws you in-

Never do find out who either of them are, truly, but you might be inclined to wonder -- instead of judge ..

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May 26, 2018

kathysolberg thinks this title is suitable for 11 years and over


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