Better Than Before

Better Than Before

Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Lives

Book - 2015
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From the author of The Happiness Project and Happier at Home. How do we make good habits that are easy, effortless, and automatic? Habits are the invisible architecture of our lives. How to understand these habits--as well as change them for good. The author illustrates the core principles of habit formation with dozens of strategies that she tests out on herself and others, and presents a clear, practical menu of strategies. Going to the gym can be as easy, effortless, and automatic as putting on a seatbelt. With a foundation of good habits, we can build a life that reflects our values and goals.
Publisher: Toronto : Doubleday Canada, ©2015
ISBN: 9780385679459
Branch Call Number: 158.1 RUB 2015
Characteristics: xii, 298 pages : illustrations ; 25 cm

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machonon
Aug 23, 2019

I'm going to stop reading this because I find it a bit tedious and the Charles Duhigg habit book is much more compelling right now. That said, there are some intuitive truths in here, particularly the commonsense notion that everyone's habit forming tendencies are different. At least, this validates my feelings about all those krazy articles that try to convince you that the first bite of dessert is the most satisfying so you can just take a bite and pass it along. Um, that last bite of dessert is DELICIOUS y'all, and apparently this is because I am an Abstainer. I don't go around starting a dessert unless I mean business. On the other hand, my annoyingly good-habited spouse is a Moderator, which means he is perfectly capable of bringing home delicious snacks, purportedly to be eaten at some mythic moment in the future when he'll want to eat some of them in a moderate fashion. But I can tell you that he never does eat them, and the reason I know this is because I have eaten all the snacks already.

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nanane
Jul 02, 2019

Gotta be honest, seriously disappointed. I loved The Happiness Project. This kinda felt like a recycled quote book from a thrift store. Nothing new or interesting, no sense of personal connection.

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amchale13
Jan 08, 2019

This book was very insightful in regards to the different types of people and how we form our habits. Gretchen does an excellent job of explaining diffferent concepts or “Strategies” and provides specific examples of how they apply to her life and the lives of others she interacts with. She keeps the reader engaged and is relatable.

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Pam70
Nov 25, 2017

I did found this book somewhat useful but didn't like it as much as her earlier books. There is a lot of repetition, a lot of filler, and I was sometimes annoyed that Rubin's advice seemed to apply more to other people than herself (the diet cola, for instance).

3 stars

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Indoorcamping
Oct 28, 2017

This will start you on the life-changing magic that is Gretchen Rubin. It's hard to underestimate the effect this book will have on your day and your life, and the advice that comes out of your mouth when people are dealing with issues of any subject. It's like the best mom advice ever, plus stories, plus reassurance that you're just fine just the way you are. And more.

From this, I read all her other books and listened to her podcast, every one at least once, even though I can't stand her voice and definitely cannot stand her sister's voice. But they're adorable and positive, and if I were a rich girl I'd want to grow up and be just like this woman. She could have been a rich lawyer, married to the son of a famous Treasury Secretary and been rich, rich, entitled, rich. But she isn't at all like this. She seems so . . . human. So almost relatable. Most of the time.

So much valuable information that has made me a better person, and in turn made everyone I know a better person. I've bought this book about a dozen times to give as gifts and every person who received it has also become a huge fan. She's got something and if you ask me, this is her best effort so far.

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humming
Jul 07, 2016

Most useful self help book I have found simply because it emphasizes doing what's right for you while helping you recognize what works for you. Just two insights and practices are making a wonderful difference in my life! Yay!

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chrisabo
Feb 14, 2016

SPL also has a podcast of her appearance - http://www.spl.org/Audio/16_01_19_GretchenRubin.mp3

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danielestes
Feb 10, 2016

Loved the beginning. And then just when I thought the book would start repeating itself, the author surprised me with her intensity. Gretchen Rubin is fiercely determined to life-hack her way to humanity 2.0.

A couple of thoughts while reading:

- I appreciate Gretchen's methods. From her POV, all good habits are achievable in some form or another. Plus, she's diligent about self-evaluation. I don't have the mental energy to devote my time the way she does, which I suspect is part of her Upholder tendency. I prefer a play-to-your-strengths / leverage-your-energy approach. Take the habits that come easy and focus on those. Rethink the hard ones. In effect, don't swim against the tide.

- Gretchen must be aware of how extraordinarily fortunate she is to have both the flexibility and the financial resources necessary to pursue mastery of her habits. This isn't an excuse for the rest of us to slack off, but surely she must realize the majority of her readers, even those with a comfortable middle class lifestyle, have to juggle career and family and personal fulfillment within a stark range of inflexible constraints.

- According to the tendency categories from early on in the book, I am undoubtedly a Questioner. That said, I question her seemingly blind devotion to the habit over what quality improvement it's supposed to aid. Exercise is an excellent example. As a lifelong acquirer and reformer of habits I'm extra sensitive to the trap of going through the motions. With exercise it's easy to do a lot while accomplishing very little. (And sometimes very little could be something unwelcome like repetitive strain injury.) Proper exercise needs to be focused, frequently varied, and never overdone; otherwise its value goes way down. Coincidentally, this was what I was thinking when I read this line from Gretchen, "The fact that I can easily read magazines while I exercise may suggest that I'm not exercising very hard—and I'm not. But at least I'm showing up." Gretchen, I know from the rest of the book that you're better than that. Maybe it's my Questioner tendency speaking through, but habits need to produce qualitative outcomes. Otherwise they should be banished or reformed. (She seems to realize this by the end of the book regarding her mediation practice. The sessions weren't giving her the ROI she was hoping for so she stopped.)

- And finally, I loved the "Secrets of Adulthood" bits of wisdom scattered throughout the book.

letitiapepper Aug 12, 2015

I listened to the audio book of Better than Before, and it was so good that I decided to read the print version. This is a sensible self-help book, one that recognizes that one size does not fit all when it comes to ways of improving one's self.
The audio book was great, and was read by the author, which made it even more enjoyable. I've actually incorporated some of her simple thoughts into my own way of dealing with things as they come up.

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sandraperkins
Jun 26, 2015

I love this book! It is written in a very engaging way. I gained insights into my own behavior and tendencies, and I learned some new approaches to building good habits. It helps that I share many of the author's traits, so I could really identify with her. I was fascinated how different techniques would work better with some types of people than with others; not everything that works for me would work for others. I recommend this book to anyone who has a desire to improve his or her life. Isn't that everyone?

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