The Feminine Mistake

The Feminine Mistake

Are We Giving up Too Much?

Book - 2007 | 1st ed
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Renowned Vanity Fair journalist Bennetts electrifies the debate over women's life choices with a riveting new book that completely redefines the work-family question. She offers a persuasive argument for why women can--and should--make more than one kind of mark on the world.
Publisher: New York : Voice/Hyperion, c2007
Edition: 1st ed
ISBN: 9781401303068
Branch Call Number: 331.44 BEN 2007
Characteristics: xxix, 350 p. ; 25 cm


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Apr 01, 2018

This book in turns annoyed me and then made complete sense.

It might seem odd that myself, as a single woman, with no children and a career would actually disagree with this premise. Though I know I'm entirely effected by my own childhood where I loved coming home to my Mom all the time. And I know she was much, much happier being home than working. Which is a demographic that does not get much room in this book.

I do understand though, that the toll it takes on a women with no financial security when something goes wrong, it can be catastrophic. I am myself a person who likes the control, security and independence of having my own income.

I think this book has an important point of view to bring forward. Yes, women need to think of the future. They need to consider their own lives and not just their families. If they have a career they are passionate about, maybe it's not necessary to give everything up for kids. Maybe those financial conversations need to happen. Maybe women shouldn't bury their heads in the sand about money. It is possible to have a happy and successful fulfilling life as a stay-at-home Mom, but there needs to be conversation. And a lot of it. Maybe a pre-nup?? Just a thought....

What I see as flaws here? This book is very much about university educated 6 figure income families. Throwing a few low income women into the story does not make it complete. Wow, so you can make it work by paying for help or moving family closer or changing jobs or getting a flexible work schedule or moving cities.....these are not really feasible for a lot of women in other income brackets. The ones where even two incomes gets them barely above the poverty line.

Also for me, this is obviously a USA based story. Like it says right in the book, all other western countries have better options for parental leave. And I happen to live in one of those countries. Making some of this book unrelevant to me.

multcolib_heathere Mar 13, 2016

We all want the best for our children, but is the best necessarily giving up our careers in order to care for them? Bennetts argues women set themselves up for financial dependency by doing so and pay a huge price later on when the children are grown.

Jan 03, 2013

interesting read on women's economic dependency when choosing to stay at home with the kids. raises questions that challenges women to re-think their decisions.

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